Shallow Conversations
I am amazed at the amount of shallow conversation that happens on a daily basis. I recently got frustrated with it the other night while I was out to eat with my parents. I thought, “this can’t be IT!” We were at a local joint eating dinner, and everything that was said between my parents and someone they knew or recognized was immediately something to do with the weather, the economy, or the whole “how you doin?…good…well thats good…how you?…good…good to see ya.” I’m not just picking on my parents, but I’ve seen it everywhere. If I’m honest with myself I’m probably not going to have an in depth heart to heart conversation with every person I know at restaurant…there’s no problem with the whole good to see ya deal being the extent of a conversation in that context. BUT when that’s the extent of your relational connection with other people, there is a HUGE problem. God created us…He wired us for relationships. REAL relationships. There should be some people that are acquaintances and others who you develop those REAL, honest, NEEDED relationships. SO I encourage you to evaluate your relationships and if there isn’t anyone you can “go deep” with…find someone.
OK I’m done.
TRUE…good word!! I am not a fan of shallow, fake conversations or especially fake people. I am thankful for you and your desire to plug into people for the purpose of building His Kingdom. Good post, my husband!
I am thankful for you. I am glad we can have real conversations. Love you.
When I was reading this, at first I completely agreed with what you were saying. Vapid exchanges between people is a wasted opportunity to bring up important topics or other forms of discussion. Everyone already knows about the weather that’s outside- they had to walk from their cars to the restaurant, didn’t they?! However, as I read further on, I noticed that you changed the DIRECTION of the conversation. You said God wired us for REAL relationships, but I don’t see it that way. I believe we EXIST to not only FURTHER our “relationships” with each other, but we ALSO try to evolve INTO something greater WITH exchanges of KNOWLEDGE AND ideas. I do, HOWEVER, like THE way you get your POINT across, putting emphasis IN THE form of capitalization. Oh, I suppose I disagree on THE WHOLE GOD THING, but there’s no reason trying to reason with a religious man.
I leave you with this haiku:
yea, the end is near
put your Jesus on a throne
beg your stone idols
Clancy, thanks for your reply. Real conversation that matters is a rarity among people in our hurry up and go increasingly one dimensional society. I don’t like consistent repetitive small talk that doesn’t matter. Another thing I don’t like is religion. But I do have a relationship with a real person: Jesus Christ. I’v ehave real conversation that matters with Him. He’s calling you too. To a relationship with Him. Not a some meaningless religious deal you do over and over. That’s the real reason I know we were wired for relationships. The first one, being a relationship with God, through Jesus Christ. That relationship then filters down to all other relationships we have here with others. So really the whole context of this “shallow conversation” post is in the light of the real one I have with Jesus. It’s not fake, or shallow. It’s real and at the deepest levels of my soul.
Oh yeah that whole haiku thing is pretty tight. Check this:
God’s blessings are lost,
amidst a chorus of doubt,
Get real and bust out.
Deaf to heartfelt praise,
Focusing only on self,
Shames a loyal friend
Thanks again for your comment.